Relationships

v-rinny · Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 9:37 pm Post subject:

I'm sorry you had to be on the end of all those lies, Emily. Confused

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neverending · Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 9:38 pm Post subject:

yes that exactly true.

my point was, how is staying with someone because you feel bad for them a good reason? ugh. COWARD.
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neverending · Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 3:17 am Post subject:

"if you ever get lonely or homesick, let me know, i can meet you halfway and we can spend the day together"

FUCK YOU.
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neverending · Posted: Mon Jan 17, 2011 3:17 am Post subject:

Mr Soia · Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 12:05 am Post subject:

I just left wife after a four and a bit years, which is the only long term relationship I've ever had. I walked out on her due to her cheating ways which I could never forgive.

I grew up wanting to always marry young, which I did at 22, but I think I should have waited another 20 years. I've always had the image of the perfect marriage and perfect family - the white picket fence etc... I'm old fashioned but I'd say it's most likely because I came from a broken home. Now for the first time since I was 20 I am by myself and learning to be me again.

I recently watched Fight Club again for the first time in a long time and I'm liking this quote "we're a generation of men raised by women. I don't think another woman is really what we need".

When I was younger, I could meet anybody, anywhere, now I'm wondering where to start.
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bergenergy · Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 2:54 pm Post subject:

Sorry to hear that - but it sounds like you are ready to get your life going.

Keep posting here for support.

Are you still moving to to the US?
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**happyfish** · Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 3:44 pm Post subject:

Built to Post, your situation makes me sad. I have been cyber-comparing your relationship to mine from the beginning and I really liked her. Even if you don't end up together, I hope that things work out for the best for both of you.
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Mr Soia · Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 6:23 pm Post subject:

Built To Post · Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2011 6:26 pm Post subject:

Built To Post · Posted: Fri Jan 21, 2011 6:28 pm Post subject:

Built To Post · Posted: Sat Jan 22, 2011 5:33 pm Post subject:

I ended up speaking with my ex(ouch)-girlfriend last night. She apologized for cutting me off without a word and gave me her reasons for doing so. She told me that she doesn't think she could be friends with me because it would hurt too much seeing me.

After a really long talk, we decided it would probably be best if we don't see each other for awhile before trying the friendship stage of our relationship.

When I woke up this morning though, for whatever reason, first thing I did was call her and ask if she wanted to go to the movies.

She said, "I thought we decided....what time is the movie?".

Bottom line, I just got back from going to the movies with her...ha ha.

The urge to want to hold her and touch was strong the entire time, but I stayed strong. When she was leaving to go home, I felt a bit awkward about how to say good-bye, so I did this weird little wave. She told me that it was ok for a hug since I hug all of my friends good-bye.

Not sure what is in store for our future, but it's nice that she's still part of my life.
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ZooeyLewis · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 6:59 pm Post subject:

**Heather** · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 7:33 pm Post subject:

ZooeyLewis · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 7:44 pm Post subject:

**Heather** · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 7:49 pm Post subject:

I agree that pushing too hard can be off-putting, but I am completely against bullshitting around with people, so "playing hard to get" or acting any way other than how you feel seems really stupid to me.

Built To Post · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 8:50 pm Post subject:

**happyfish** · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 10:48 pm Post subject:

My exboyfriend deativated his facebook account right before we stopped dating (this was over 2 years ago). The other day I signed on facebook to see him appearing in my status updates. He reactivated his account. The first thing I saw was a notification telling me he was now listed as single (it was still in a relationship from when we were dating). It was weird because I haven't seen him in forever and since he didn't have a facebook, it was easy to pretend he didn't exist. I don't have bad feelings towards him at all, it's just more awkward than anything. My other exboyfriend who I dated before that guy also just posted a fb update. He has had an account this whole time, but he hardly ever signs in. So this prompted me to just spend a few minutes facebook stalking the two of them and thinking about how unusual all the guys I've dated have been. The first one was socially awkward and obsessed with pottery and AFI. The second one was socially awkward and obsessed with computer programming and TOOL. I think my current boyfriend was quite a bit of an upgrade. Wow, this was a long rambling post and I'm way too tired to edit it to sound less ramble-y.
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Built To Post · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2011 10:59 pm Post subject:

**happyfish** · Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2011 1:20 pm Post subject:

So...the relationships of everyone I know seem to be falling apart lately. A couple that me and my boyfriend are both pretty good friends with, who have been married for 9 years, just decided to separate. We hung out with the husband last night and he was the one who told us. He didn't go into too many details, but he did say that it was mostly his decision and that he is moving out. He said he doesn't want to give up yet, but that the issues haven't gone away so they need space for a while to figure out if they can make it work. It makes me really sad because I really like both of them and I hope this doesn't turn into a situation where I have to pick a side. He did tell me that he knows his wife is really upset and he said I should probably call her because she needs support. He seemed a little upset over it, but we watched movies and hung out and he acted pretty normal. I'm sure she is basically falling apart over it. I am going to call her soon and see if she wants to do something this weekend, but I don't want to make either of them feel like they have to tell me the details of what is going on. I mostly just want to be there for her because I'm sure she's in pretty rough shape right now.

Meanwhile, another girl I know moved across the country a year ago to go to grad school with her boyfriend. They are living together, and he just broke up with her, stating that he doesn't want to get married or have kids. It seemed pretty abrupt. She said she hadn't even brought those things up, she thinks he was just assuming she would soon since they'd been together a few years. So she's pretty devastated about the fact that he's breaking up with her, plus she doesn't know too many people out there and can't really afford an apartment without him.

Bleeeeeh.

Well, my relationship is doing really well right now, so I guess I should be happy about that.
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neverending · Posted: Fri Jan 28, 2011 11:15 pm Post subject:

i'm glad this thread was bumped.

so as many of you know, i just moved 5 hours away from home for a job and i've been here for 2 months.

i was talking to a group of guys at work about how i have no friends so i don't do anything. later that day i got a message from one of the guys offering to hang out. now, during the conversation at work i mentioned how i want friends. not a boyfriend. i specifically said i want someone i can just go to a pub with, eat some wings, drink some beer and watch hockey.

so he just asked to hang out sometime, so whaetver i gave him my number and said to text me sometime. he did, we talked, a bit, not so much. he asked if i wanted to go to a pub last saturday, so i thought, why not. well a pub turned out to him taking me to a movie. so it was a date. he was weird and awkward. we never talked at work so i never really knew what he was like. well, like half hour after he drops me off i get a text "i should have asked to use your washroom"...is this guy code for him saying i should have invited him in? or he really had to piss? and if it was the second, why would he have the need to tell me?

he just kept texting and texting and he just kept asking the same things over and over
'hows work going?"
"are you still working?"
"how was your day?"

and i didn't respond to any of them. and he kept going and going. so i finally replied, but gave short one word answers.

he texted me at 1:30am last night "what are you doing tomorrow?" i didn't reply since you know, i was sleeping. i received another at around 2 "what are you doing tonight?" "i have a doctors appointment" "oh what to do something after?" "not really" "you sure?" "yes im sure" "okay well if you change you mind give me a shout"

....i just said i dont want to hang out with you, what are you not getting? i dont know what else to say?
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v-rinny · Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 1:00 pm Post subject:

Emily, I may be totally wrong but I think he's hoping that your friendship is "accidentally" turning into a relationship or something. I would continue to be friendly with him at work but hold off hanging out for a little, and just hang out every once in awhile if possible. If he asks about you guys' status, try to be honest.
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neverending · Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 1:53 pm Post subject:

his contract is over so i dont have to see him at work.

facebook relationship changed. i got my friend darrell to say we're dating lol should get some comments from our friends though lol
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neverending · Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 1:54 pm Post subject:

oh he also asked me if i want to go out for dinner tonight.
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Built To Post · Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 2:13 pm Post subject:

Oh, no...poor Darrell. If he asked you to dinner right after your fake relationship status...it might not be so fake to him.
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neverending · Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2011 2:20 pm Post subject:

nooo darrells a good friend of mine that is willing to say we're dating on facebook lol creeper guy had asked me out for dinner this morning.
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