Relationships

Built To Post · Posted: Wed Feb 02, 2011 11:59 pm Post subject:

Sure. Block him if he still doesn't get the hint after that. 3 strikes and you're out!
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mojo shivers · Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 12:10 am Post subject:

I'm telling you, Emily, a picture of you with a dead rap star will send the message. LOL
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CaraB · Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 12:22 am Post subject:

thegirlinthesong · Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2011 2:28 am Post subject:

I mean, you could always have him murdered...
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bello_returns · Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 12:15 am Post subject:

If anyone can offer some assistance, I'd love to hear it. I usually try not to seek advice online but at this point, I'll take whatever:

So my situation is, there's this girl (we'll call her Jenny). She has a "boyfriend" (we'll call him David) but initially and on multiple occasions, their relationship (according to her) is open. They do their own thing. Its kinda downplayed and more like a "he helps me" type thing. What I gather from my own observations is that she keeps him around mainly for financial purposes. As I grew to know her, I soon saw that the relationship is presented to David as a legit relationship. They've been "together" for 7 years. She is forever talking about how she doesnt want a relationship and she wants to be alone, yet she lives with this guy. It just seems like contradictions all over the place. Add this to, they have virtually nothing in common. For example, her passion is music as is mine, but this guy knows NOTHING about music and is more into video games. He had never even heard the name David Bowie in his whole life which for me is like...how is that possible?

Now as far as she and I go. On the pleasant side, we have this connection, its acknowledged on both sides. We have sooooo much in common. We're like bookends. She's forever saying she's never met anyone quite like me, blah blah. We'll say we're "best friends" when we both know its more than that. She's gotten drunk and told me she wants to be with me but doesnt because she doesn't want to "fuck shit up". We've hooked up LOTS of times and every single time was initiated by her. I mean I'm describing her as this horrible person, but she's actually one of the sweetest people I've ever met. However, on the unpleasant side she's bi-polar. Like clinically. We fight alot and its usually because she gets paranoid and accuses me of something that I would never do. She will also go out of her way to convince herself that I'm this horribly unbearable person. When she's angry, she'll throw her relationship with "David" in my face as if its so amazing. Also, she is so convinced that I don't like the guy when really I have no feeling for him good or bad. In fact, I feel a bit sorry for him. She calls me EVERY SINGLE day (not exaggerating) but she never wants to talk to me in front of him. She says its because she knows I don't like him. I think its because she feels guilty having these amazing convo's with another guy.

Its just a big old mess. I gave you maybe 20% of all the shit that goes on. What I need help with is, I am actually not interested in dating this girl for a NUMBER of reasons. She seems to be emotionally unstable and her "relationship" with David doesnt say much for what WE would have. However, despite this, I'm in love with her and its mutual (she told me) and it sucks because I don't want to be. When things are good, they are GREAT. PHENOMENAL. But when they're bad, they're unbearable and I can't seem to get over her. So yes, how do you get over someone that you know isn't good for you. I'd still be friends with her regardless but I'm sure if I did the feelings would be there. And I don't want to let go of our FRIENDSHIP. I just dont want any attachment because then I won't care as much anymore.
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bergenergy · Posted: Fri Feb 04, 2011 2:29 pm Post subject:

bello, for being how complicated that is you did a good job of explaining it.

Maybe, if you don't want to be caught up sexually, but still want to be friends, you distance yourself on a day to day basis, but remain in contact from a more distant perspective. She will wonder why you pulled back, but you can just let her know you are not cutting her out all together.
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neverending · Posted: Sat Feb 05, 2011 4:33 pm Post subject:

"No worries. You never mentioned anything about having a boyfriend ever before until now, which left me under the impression you were single. Sorry for the miscommunication"

but me telling you that i only wanted FRIENDS in pickering wasnt good enough, or me telling you i wasn't interested?
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neverending · Posted: Tue Mar 08, 2011 5:08 am Post subject:

so, ugh. in other threads i have made comments about this guy ive been recently hanging out with, and yay things are going super well, but fuck other guys.

so apparently noone at work likes matt, so everyone is kind of looking down on me for liking him. whatever, i work with a lot of low lifes so i really don't care what they think. basically, everyone at work thought it was just rumours.

well, today i told this guy aaron that me and matt actually did hang out (they all thought matt stood me up) and aaron wouldn't believe me, (aaron being one of the few non-low lifes) and so when i finally got him to believe that we did actually hang out he stormed out of the lab saying "not cool emily, not cool at all!!!" and we've been texting and he's like "well im mad because i wanted to get to know you and pursue you" and well, yeah i love aaron, he's an awesome guy, i would love to hang out with him/date him, whatever, but he has a girlfriend, a serious one at that, so the thought just left my mind. so i reminded him of his girlfriend and hes like "obviously after we break up"

it just seems like whenever i meet a guy and starting getting my hopes up, some other guy i have liked in the past just likes to drop the "oh hey i like you" bomb. and it just irritates me to no end because its usually a guy i have tried to hang out with /get to know in the past so its like NO YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO SAY THAT because i just get all confused and don't know what i want.

me and matt are hanging out wednesday after work (he works until 230, im on graveyards and wake up at 230ish) and im still all excited. but now im just going to have all these other thoughts in my mind.

note to all guys: don't fucking tell a girl you like her if you are committed to being with her. especially if you are dating someone else. this has been happening to me waaay to often lately.
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neverending · Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 10:44 am Post subject:

bump.

matt turned out to be crazy. breaking into houses (mine) super bipolar (worst mood swings ever) super possessive and super jealous. he went "missing" for about 5 days, didnt go to work either because he went on a crazy drinking (more than likely drugs too) binge and was bragging about it. clearly not the kind of person i want to associate myself with. i havent seen him at work in a few weeks, so thats good and i know when he takes his breaks so he'll be easily avoidable when we are on the same shift.

i always get stuck with the crazies. i need to find my piemaker.
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ZooeyLewis · Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 2:16 pm Post subject:

That sounds like a mess, Emily. I'm sorry you're going through that. Hope you find your piemaker soon Wink

(But am crossing my fingers that you don't have to die and be brought back to life in order to do so)

v-rinny · Posted: Sun Apr 17, 2011 3:45 pm Post subject:

Holy crap, Em. I'm sorry you had to deal with all that...you don't deserve to put up with that shit! Doubt

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thegirlinthesong · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 2:29 am Post subject:

I've recently been reconnecting with my high school sweetheart, Andreas. He's who I had my longest relationship with (which admittedly still wasn't very long), he was my easiest break-up and the ex I've gotten along with best since we split up nearly five years ago. He's also the one I tend to backslide with a bit whenever both of us are single and in town.

Anyway, he had a serious girlfriend for quite a while (another girl from our high school, one who went to the same college as him), but she's still at school in Illinois and he's doing a graduate program in Seattle, so though we haven't talked about it I'm guessing the distance finally took its toll and they broke up a little while back. Since then we've been texting a lot and have Skyped a couple of times too. I don't know if it's the fact that he's across the country from me, or how long it's been since we dated, or even just how long we've known each other (I met him when I was 11, so I've known him half my life now) but we've come into this ease of talking to each other, not bothering to play any games or try to hide our feelings for the other.

I recently sent him a YouTube cover I like of "Here In Your Arms" by Hellogoodbye (kind of our song in high school) and the Facebook message he replied with tonight was just...heartwarming, honestly, and that is not a word I use frequently. He was so genuine about the happy trip down memory lane it sent him on, and how I was an intimate part of that and he thanked me for it. He actually thanked me. I swear, I've never known another guy in real life who was willing or even able to talk the way he does -- he's really very smart, so in addition to expressing himself with sincerity, he does it with eloquence. And when I'm talking to him, I'm that way too. It's like he makes me the best version of myself. My girlfriends here at school who have known me for years comment that they've never seen me act the way I do about him -- singularly happy and unabashedly affectionate.

The one downside is that I can't think of a way I'll be able to see him before late July or so. I'll be moving back home to Chicago after I graduate, but he still has a year left in Seattle, and we both have to get jobs in our respective cities this summer. He'll probably be able to come visit for a week or a week and a half in late July, which is when a friend of ours from high school is getting married, but that's much too far away and not nearly enough. It might be bearable if I knew we could plan to be together after his program finishes, but he'll be working in urban planning and I want to be an actress, and I just don't know if I can see those things taking us to the same place.
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**F#minor** · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 2:53 am Post subject:

My ex gf called me and last friday to brag that someone gave her a free ticket for coachella as well as for her friends and bragged and taunted me for not going. I never been so hurt.
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Mr Soia · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 9:22 am Post subject:

I hooked up with a girl a few weeks back, there was some history there, we were friends many years before, she liked me then but was underage so I didn't go there. I ended up meeting my ex wife and broke this girls heart - not knowingly. Many years go by and we reunite, she's now 19, the day of the reunion we spent the night together, I told her a week later I wanted to be with her, and she responded saying she thought it was four years too late.

She said we should try being friends then maybe something could happen again. So the next six days we hardly spoke and she messaged me asking why I wasn't talking to her, and she accused me of using her. I told her I don't talk to my friends everyday.

I said I was over playing these 'games' that these younger girls tend to play and I don't have the time. I've decided I'm just going to buy me a french bulldog or a boston terrier once I've settled in the States and that'll keep me happy for the years to come... but you never know, American girls could be different, right?
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mojo shivers · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 11:44 am Post subject:

You can't ever go wrong with a Boston Terrier, but you can definitely go wrong with an American girl.
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**Heather** · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 12:58 pm Post subject:

mojo shivers · Posted: Wed Apr 20, 2011 1:23 pm Post subject:

Mr Soia · Posted: Sun Apr 24, 2011 2:13 am Post subject:

Let's all get RK Boston Terriers!
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neverending · Posted: Sat May 07, 2011 11:39 pm Post subject:

went on a date tonight. he loudly told me his thoughts on the word "vagina" and "vulva". in a crowded restaurant.

the hockey game could not end soon enough.
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neverending · Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 1:35 pm Post subject:

so matt, the crazy guy, cut off all his hair a few weeks ago, came into work and told everyone his name was geoff.

his facebook the other day:

"Going by Shawn now. so dont call me matthew anymore"

pick a name you weirdo. oh and matt isn't even his real name!
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bergenergy · Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 2:14 pm Post subject: