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Oooh...sorry, I was confused as to who asked you to dinner. LOL.
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I shot over here when I saw that relationship status changed! hahaha. I would have done the same thing, honestly.
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So basically, deception>honesty?
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| So basically, deception>honesty? |
I'm a self-admitting chicken shit when it comes to guys (aka why I haven't had a boyfriend in forever, I have trouble admitting my feelings when I do like a guy), so yes, unfortunately. I hate myself for it, and am trying so hard to shake that reasoning.
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| I'm a self-admitting chicken shit when it comes to guys (aka why I haven't had a boyfriend in forever, I have trouble admitting my feelings when I do like a guy), so yes, unfortunately. I hate myself for it, and am trying so hard to shake that reasoning. |
I had that shield of self-protection for many years, so I understand. Eventually you'll realize that you are who you are, and who you are is pretty great. From that point on you'll realize that honesty is the only way to be truly happy.
It may not be all happiness and rainbows, as it certainly hasn't been or isn't for me, but at least you won't fool yourself or others.
Living life under a facade is the biggest disservice you can do to yourself.
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| facebook relationship changed. i got my friend darrell to say we're dating lol should get some comments from our friends though lol |
Haha...the kind of effort we now have to put into the old "I'm seeing someone" avoidance method is a little terrifying. Thanks, Facebook!
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...While I'm here, I would just like to state my incredulity at the fact that I have somehow ended up in the middle of mad underclassmen relationship drama at my school. It involves a close friend from my a cappella group who's a sophomore, her ex-boyfriend who's a junior (and lives with my least favorite ex-boyfriend), and a freshman girl I was in a show with last semester who I never actually bonded with all that much but has apparently decided I am the answer to all her problems. The freshman came over when I was having a little party last night (luckily the sophomore had already left), promptly shut herself up in my bedroom to have a nervous breakdown, and ended up spending the night on my futon. And tonight she came over again to talk before she came with me and my roommate to the sophomore's birthday party, at the junior's house. I DON'T GET IT AT ALL. I am neither a comforting person nor one who has any kind of expertise on relationships.
Someone please tell me there's less of this after college? Please? Lie to me if you must.
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| facebook relationship changed. i got my friend darrell to say we're dating lol should get some comments from our friends though lol |
Haha...the kind of effort we now have to put into the old "I'm seeing someone" avoidance method is a little terrifying. Thanks, Facebook!
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...While I'm here, I would just like to state my incredulity at the fact that I have somehow ended up in the middle of mad underclassmen relationship drama at my school. It involves a close friend from my a cappella group who's a sophomore, her ex-boyfriend who's a junior (and lives with my least favorite ex-boyfriend), and a freshman girl I was in a show with last semester who I never actually bonded with all that much but has apparently decided I am the answer to all her problems. The freshman came over when I was having a little party last night (luckily the sophomore had already left), promptly shut herself up in my bedroom to have a nervous breakdown, and ended up spending the night on my futon. And tonight she came over again to talk before she came with me and my roommate to the sophomore's birthday party, at the junior's house. I DON'T GET IT AT ALL. I am neither a comforting person nor one who has any kind of expertise on relationships.
Someone please tell me there's less of this after college? Please? Lie to me if you must. |
Yes, it's terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true, the bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies, and everybody lives happily ever after.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 6:50 am
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| facebook relationship changed. i got my friend darrell to say we're dating lol should get some comments from our friends though lol |
Haha...the kind of effort we now have to put into the old "I'm seeing someone" avoidance method is a little terrifying. Thanks, Facebook!
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...While I'm here, I would just like to state my incredulity at the fact that I have somehow ended up in the middle of mad underclassmen relationship drama at my school. It involves a close friend from my a cappella group who's a sophomore, her ex-boyfriend who's a junior (and lives with my least favorite ex-boyfriend), and a freshman girl I was in a show with last semester who I never actually bonded with all that much but has apparently decided I am the answer to all her problems. The freshman came over when I was having a little party last night (luckily the sophomore had already left), promptly shut herself up in my bedroom to have a nervous breakdown, and ended up spending the night on my futon. And tonight she came over again to talk before she came with me and my roommate to the sophomore's birthday party, at the junior's house. I DON'T GET IT AT ALL. I am neither a comforting person nor one who has any kind of expertise on relationships.
Someone please tell me there's less of this after college? Please? Lie to me if you must. |
There's always going to be drama. In fact, I think the stakes get higher after college. People get into more serious, longer relationships... which makes the inevitable flirting, cheating, and occasional fallout all the more insidious.
If there is such thing as a drama-free relationship I haven't seen it--at least not from the people I know.
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update:
i told him twice i was not interested, told him i had a boyfriend and changed my facebook and still isn't getting the hint, he just asked me out.
i swear he's going to show up to my house.
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Posted: Sun Jan 30, 2011 8:39 pm
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update:
i told him twice i was not interested, told him i had a boyfriend and changed my facebook and still isn't getting the hint, he just asked me out.
i swear he's going to show up to my house. |
my roommate is having similar problems, i guess; she has a serious long-term boyfriend but there's this boy that's in love with her and won't give up.
he got her tickets for the decemberists (which she has never ever listened to) and asked her to come over for wine and hot tubbing before the show. when he was sick he called her and asked her to come over and make him soup. he tries to guilt trip her into going out clubbing with him. he thinks she's his girlfriend for some strange fucked up reason.
i'm not a fan, and neither is her boyfriend. |
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In a whirlwind of events today, the morning started with my g/f saying that she was going to come over to exchange keys and items we had at each others place. She then delayed it saying her mother insisted she go shopping with her.
We talked on the phone this evening and discussed how we should make this transition smooth and cordial, and how we would remain friends.
In the middle of our conversation I stopped and said, "What the fuck? This isn't us. Who the hell are these assholes?". She laughed really hard and said, "I don't know. I hate them!".
Instantly, we were laughing at things we had said, and made fun of ourselves. We played the "What you said wasn't as bad as when I said..." game.
It brought back all that we loved about each other. Instead of breaking up, we're going to start the transition of living together.
Someday I think I'll share this thread with her so she can laugh at how emo I get here ha ha.
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It brought back all that we loved about each other. Instead of breaking up, we're going to start the transition of living together. |
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In a whirlwind of events today, the morning started with my g/f saying that she was going to come over to exchange keys and items we had at each others place. She then delayed it saying her mother insisted she go shopping with her.
We talked on the phone this evening and discussed how we should make this transition smooth and cordial, and how we would remain friends.
In the middle of our conversation I stopped and said, "What the fuck? This isn't us. Who the hell are these assholes?". She laughed really hard and said, "I don't know. I hate them!".
Instantly, we were laughing at things we had said, and made fun of ourselves. We played the "What you said wasn't as bad as when I said..." game.
It brought back all that we loved about each other. Instead of breaking up, we're going to start the transition of living together.
Someday I think I'll share this thread with her so she can laugh at how emo I get here ha ha. |
That's awesome for you. I knew it was just a matter of time when you two crazy kids would reconcile with one another.
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| That's awesome for you. I knew it was just a matter of time when you two crazy kids would reconcile with one another. |
Thanks. I had my doubts over the past week that we would get back together, and I had a moment of fear after calling us assholes, but her laughter as a reaction was perhaps the greatest thing I've ever heard.
We still have some issues, but they are small in the overall picture of us.
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| That's awesome for you. I knew it was just a matter of time when you two crazy kids would reconcile with one another. |
Thanks. I had my doubts over the past week that we would get back together, and I had a moment of fear after calling us assholes, but her laughter as a reaction was perhaps the greatest thing I've ever heard.
We still have some issues, but they are small in the overall picture of us. |
This is the advice I received after a particularly nasty fight:
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Posted: Mon Jan 31, 2011 12:01 am
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Wow, that's a terrific saying.
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| Wow, that's a terrific saying. |
I thought so too. That's why I wrote it down in my quote book. LOL
Another one I always remember is "The heart has reasons that Reason cannot comprehend." That one's from my all-time favorite show, Avonlea.
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I thought so too. That's why I wrote it down in my quote book. LOL
Another one I always remember is "The heart has reasons that Reason cannot comprehend." That one's from my all-time favorite show, Avonlea. |
That's a really good one as well. I think I need to start a quote book.
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That's so great!!!
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In a whirlwind of events today, the morning started with my g/f saying that she was going to come over to exchange keys and items we had at each others place. She then delayed it saying her mother insisted she go shopping with her.
We talked on the phone this evening and discussed how we should make this transition smooth and cordial, and how we would remain friends.
In the middle of our conversation I stopped and said, "What the fuck? This isn't us. Who the hell are these assholes?". She laughed really hard and said, "I don't know. I hate them!".
Instantly, we were laughing at things we had said, and made fun of ourselves. We played the "What you said wasn't as bad as when I said..." game.
It brought back all that we loved about each other. Instead of breaking up, we're going to start the transition of living together.
Someday I think I'll share this thread with her so she can laugh at how emo I get here ha ha. |
Wow, this is a very interesting turn of events during your conversation. I'm gad to hear it!
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Thanks, V & C! 
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| Thanks, V & C! |
Meeee toooo on the excitement.
It's weird, my relationship has really settled down after 25 years of passion and anger. Now she calls me 'dear' all the time and it is really freaking me out. I think some of the fight went out of her in mid-life. Less need to flail against imaginary enemies (and moi).
On the creepy stalking, I often feel those terms are overused, but these sound like truly deranged behavior. But some of it made me laugh. 
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yeah a lot of people got a kick out of it too. He sent me a message on facebook telling me I dont need to ignore him and if im not interested to tell him...any suggestions for a reply?
In other news, a guy at work gave me his number today. He also bought me deep fried pickles. Seems like a keeper.
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| He sent me a message on facebook telling me I dont need to ignore him and if im not interested to tell him...any suggestions for a reply? |
Just politely tell him that you're not interested.
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....again? for the 3rd time?
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